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ONE GI-ANT act of love

6/6/2018

THE ANT

One day, an ant was blissfully exploring in a new place. He had ventured out on his own, and was very excited about what he may encounter. Just then, the ground below began to shake and shift! That's when he noticed the giants all around him! They were circling around him, as the ground continued to move and shake. One giant in particular kept placing one obstacle after another in front of him. No matter where he went, he felt he would never get out of there! He just wanted to go back home! Just then, he mustered up all of the courage he had inside. If he was going to get out of there at all, he would HAVE to be brave, and climb over the obstacles presented to him. So he went for it! Just then, he found himself traveling on one of the giants, and kept looking frantically for a way down and around, until all of a sudden, the giant makes one last move, and the ant goes flying high into the air until he finally finds himself in the soft, soft grass surrounded by his family and friends. Boy oh boy would he have a story to tell!

THE GIANT

One morning, I found my youngest child lying on the ground, watching and highly concerned about something. My boxer, Daisy, was walking around her as well as if to find out what was causing her so much worry. So I asked my daughter what was going on down there? She looked up at me with concern on her face, and said, "I'm trying to keep this poor little ant from getting stepped on. I'm really worried it might get hurt!" She kept moving her hand around the ant, placing a block each way it went in an attempt to get it to go onto her hand so she could take it safely outside, away from all of the dangers indoors, such as getting stepped on by pets or humans. After a while, she finally managed to get it to crawl on her hand, giving it no other choice. Once she was able to take it outside, it wouldn't come off. She kept working to get the ant off of her hand without it being squished, and finally, the ant went flying off of her into the grass outside. "Phew! Now I know it's safe!"

A LITTLE PERSPECTIVE

Have you put your mind into the perspective of another human being or another creature, and thought about something from their point of view? This ant was going about its business when a huge giant lays itself down, providing obstacles in every way, but what the ant didn't realize was that this giant had a giant heart, and knew if she didn't save him, he would surely be squashed. She so lovingly provided the best safety she could to protect this small and innocent creature, and the ant was never the wiser to this type of love and guidance.

How many of you feel as though you've been blocked or completely thrown off course in your lives? What if there is a giant part of you that is looking out for your best interest and safety, but it feels like there are blocks and obstacles? Sometimes it takes a leap of faith and courage, along with trust, so that everything is working for you in a greater way then you had thought or imagined. What if you decided to trust instead? Sometimes it may seem scary, but what if something else, or something greater, is waiting for you, and is being provided out of a greater love you may not even fully understand... yet?

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The Garden of Contentment- Taking Back Control Of Your Life

8/1/2017

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   In the beginning of the summer, my family and I decided to plant a big, and beautiful garden to have lots of vegetables to eat. We were so excited!
Yesterday, I was outside, looking at my garden, and immediately felt overwhelmed. Although we had done everything in taking the time to get the ground, the amount of grass, and weeds inside this space was overpowering. We took time and care in getting the soil ready, and planted each seed with loving care. However, now… I was standing there looking at this garden we had so many high hopes for, and although there were many fruits of our labor, I couldn’t see many of them under all of the overgrowth. From what I could see, some of the plants were doing well, and some of them had produced very little, and some had died from neglect.

   What happened? What happened was, that we had gotten so busy with other things that we forgot to take care of something that was so important.
So I stood there looking at this place, and decided to get to work, working one area at a time. While I was weeding, I started to go into deep thought about life. So often, we plant things for ourselves we have such high hopes for. We get the ground ready, and are excited to see the fruits of our labor-but often begin to feel over whelmed, and frustrated. Why?

   Each plant represents our needs as well as what we want for ourselves- our growth. However, we often forget, grow impatient, and even find ourselves too busy to take care of what’s important. We get caught up in all of the madness, and unimportant things, that we allow seeds we don’t want into this beautiful garden of ours. Weeds come in all shapes, sizes, and they don’t take long to grow. Once they’ve been planted, they can often overrun, and even choke out the plants you had sewn all together.

   This garden represents your life, and it depends on the very care you give it. If you are not making yourself as well as those whom you love a priority, and allow negativity into your life, it doesn’t take long for weeds to manifest. This can leave anyone feeling overwhelmed, and frustrated… even feeling hopeless. But there is hope! The best way to fix this is to roll up your sleeves, and to begin eliminate everything in your life that is hurting you in some way. Pull out everything in your life that is negative, especially those that are choking the life out of you, or anything else really important. It takes special time, and care, but each weed eliminated from your life, is so incredibly satisfying, and leaves you with a greater sense of achievement and gratitude!

If you’re looking for hope, here are the best ways to get started:

EVALUATE YOUR LIFE- start looking at what doesn’t fill you up in some way. Take a good look at your life, and think about what it is you need, and want- make it basic at first (self-love, happiness, good health, a happy and healthy family, good supportive friends, etc… whatever it is for you.
DIVE RIGHT IN- start weeding out what doesn’t bring you peace. This may mean taking a good hard look at what you are doing to fill yourself up. It also means taking a solid look at the areas in your life that are toxic. Most times, the weeds are self-cultivated. That inner voice inside that tells you that you can’t do it, that you’re not good enough, or anything else that makes you feel bad about yourself. These roots are often the most solid, and deep. The best way to pull these weeds, is with patience, kindness and understanding. You are good enough, you are strong enough, you are smart, and you are worthy. Affirmations are key. Use these regularly, and not only will you begin to uproot those deep harmful roots, but you are nurturing the soil for those important seeds you have planted, Not only this, but you are planting, as well as nurturing new and exciting seeds for your future.
USE YOUR TOOLS- There are so many tools and resources out there. Use them. Use ALL of what you have. This will only help you.
ASK FOR HELP- This one is sometimes the hardest one for most people to do. However, one of the best things you can do for yourself, is to ask for help. Find people who have your best interest at heart, and can be most useful. You’ll be surprised at how many people will step up for you, and dive in with you, while bringing new tools you hadn’t even thought about. These can be professionals, but they can also be your friends and family… your support system.
TAKE CARE- You must take care to maintain your garden regularly! Regular self-care, evaluation, and maintenance is key to a healthy, happy, and successful life. YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE!

As I was contemplating all of this, before I knew it, I was surrounded by my family who had all come out to help in some way. Before we knew it, we were seeing ground again as well as many of the plants we had planted before shining through in all their glory!
YOU CAN DO IT!!!

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Turn Your Child's Fears into Laughter and Smiles

3/11/2015

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"There's nothing to fear, but fear itself."
- Franklin D. Roosevelt"

"There's nothing to fear, but fear itself. " That statement couldn't be more true! Every fear begins with a thought. Most of us have awesome imaginations, but unfortunately, many use their imagination applied to the dreaded task of... worry.
A child's imagination is a place where many magical things occur. They play, and create fun, and art, but other times, their imagination can take a darker turn, and create something they fear either from the unknown, something they've heard, or something they've seen. In fact many adult phobias begin as something innocent from childhood, and the thought of something terrible happening grows over time. I, personally, am not a fan of clowns, and I can attribute that to several sleepovers as a child where clowns played a role in a scary movie. In fact, if I had to think back, I believe the movies, "It" by Stephen King, and "Poltergeist" were two of the culprits!

What parent hasn't been woken up in the middle of the night with a scared little one standing next to them because of a bad dream? Or when they suddenly become afraid of going in a room, or off by themselves? I have three kids with wild imaginations so I know a thing or two about that. They can get so bad sometimes they're almost inconsolable. Whatever it is, that fear is very real to them just as ours is to us no matter how ridiculous it sounds.

What to Do:

One word...
Imagination- Imagination started the fear to begin with, and is the thing that's going to eliminate it as well. Take advantage of a time when they are really afraid of something, and distract them by asking about something they think is pretty cute, about something you know that they love or is really funny. Chances are they might be caught off guard at first, but once you have something to work with, ask them to close their eyes, and describe the thing they find scary, and then you (as the adult) make that scary thing into something else, and use some creative skills to make it less intimidating. You could either make it smaller, or ask them to change color, or the place, or even make up a story to the scenario where this character (or whatever) is simply misunderstood, and really quite sweet.

One recent example in my own home was when my littlest daughter started being afraid of going anywhere by herself. I had asked her to get something from the upstairs and bring it to me, and she began shivering, and whimpering. In asking her what was wrong, she began to describe a character she had seen briefly on something her (much older) brother had watched that she found to e scary. So I asked her to describe something that made her laugh and began talking about what she loved.
"BUNNIES!" she giggled. Then I asked her to think about the scary guy, (she winced), and told her right away to imagine he just popped out some cute little bunny ears! Then, I began telling her to turn him into a cute, pink, fuzzy bunny, and imagine him hopping around instead doing silly little things.
With this, she began laughing hysterically, and making up more to the story as it grew into a playful situation.
Right after our conversation, she went right upstairs by herself giggling the entire way, as she imagined her once scary little man as a cute and cuddly new friend who was hopping up the steps behind her. That's all it took, and she was fine!

So do what you can to be as creative! Using the imagination with your children is a great way to help them with problem solving skills, and in cases where fear is concerned, it can really teach to help coping skills as well.

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6 Steps to Successful Thinking

1/14/2015

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So, it's already into the New Year! Many have made resolutions to lose weight, kick bad habits like smoking, nail biting, procrastination, take more time for yourself or family, or maybe even to fix the family finances in some cases. In most cases, we either want to do better, or be better in some way.
Many people by this point have given up or are thinking about it. If you've done either one, don't worry. You don't have to make it to the New Year to try again. In fact, why wait at all?

Your goals are important no matter what age you are or what's going on in your life, let alone what day it is.

How does one measure success? Is it in the type of car you drive? Is it the amount of money you have? Good health? Maybe it's in your relationships with others?

What if I told you that you could be successful in any goal you put forth? You can! Many of us are taught from many different sources to limit our thinking. Some of these sources include family, friends, religion, enemies, teachers, and other people we look up to. Some of the time they mean well, and other times they do not. Add to that, the little and not-so-little negative thoughts we tell ourselves in the midst of fear, seeking approval, and perhaps in the fear of making mistakes, telling ourselves we will never be good enough or strong enough.

It's producing this way of thinking that makes many people so miserable. I mean, why would you even want to try if you and everyone else is telling you you'll fail, or never be good enough? I mean, what's the point? Well, what if I told you the importance of your goals begins with your thought process? Your work from the inside out is the THE MOST important part of the process.

Dreamers are amazing, and the use of their imagination is amazing! However, a dreamer is nothing but a dreamer unless he or she applies action to set it in motion for success. Have you ever wondered how it seems like some people can make anything happen? It's almost like magic where they want something, and "Poof!" it appears!
Personally, I don't believe in luck in the way most people do. I do, however, believe that if you allow your mind and experiences to open up to possibilities, you will begin to see more of, and know when to accept opportunities, help, and guidance when they appear.

How to begin successful thinking:

1. Gratitude: Be grateful for everything you can think of no matter how small, and blessings will seem to fall from the sky by the truckloads. This gives you a better attitude, and better outlook on everything in your life, as well as in others' lives.

2. Self Love: Begin by talking to yourself first the way you want to be treated, beginning with affirmations. Saying things like, "I really love myself." and think about the things that make you unique, special, talented, and/or little things that you like about yourself, and tell yourself about them. It's OK to think highly of yourself no matter who has told you not to. It does not make you snobby, or full of yourself, or conceited to think that you are special. You and others were made from scratch in a very specific way. Be proud of that! People who begin to love themselves often feel an outpouring of love and kindness they can't wait to share with others.

3. Choose your thoughts wisely: YOUR THOUGHTS MATTER! I see this all the time in my practice at Hypnotic Wellness Methods Hypnosis. The first thing clients tell me is what they don't want in their lives or behaviors.
Think of your mind as a computer. You wouldn't go to a computer to type in everything you don't want it to do. Instead you begin programming it by entering key words describing what you want. Your mind is no different. If you looked into a search engine, and entered something you don't want, it would find that key word right away, and give you everything you asked for, all of the information, images, etc... The mind does not recognize negative words like don't. When you tell yourself that you don't want to be shy (for example), you are not only giving yourself the command to be shy, but you're bringing it into focus, and blowing it up to gigantic proportions. Your mind's computer begins imagining the situation, which triggers physical reactions (usually fear, shame, and frustration in most cases). The more you focus on this thing you don't want, the more it becomes the elephant in the room, or worse, you look for new ways to avoid situations all together.

4. Think Positive Words, and Thoughts: Now that you've learned about how the mind programs itself, begin replacing what you don't want first off with what it is you do want. Once you've established and pointed out what it is you really want, begin to program yourself by entering it into your system with positive words. The example used earlier, was "I don't want to be shy." Replace it with one word, "Confident." When you do this, take your mental computer to its search engine where there are images, words of encouragement, reminders of times in your life where you were confident in something you did, or in a situation.

5. Set Goals and Take Action: By setting big goals, and outlining small, achievable goals daily, you will be closer to your goal each day.
Many people give up so easily on their goals because whatever it is, is so big that it seems completely unachievable. If you and a friend look at the top of a mountain and say to yourself every day, "I'm going to climb that mountain over there." Is that goal achievable? It's all achievable. The difference on whether you or your friend get there depends on the action taken. If you're standing there every day looking at the mountain, and dreaming about getting there, ten years down the road, you will probably still be staring at that mountain. Imagine that your friend, however (while you were dreaming), was each day, planning how, visualizing, and actually taking more and more steps to achieving their goal. A dreamer can only get so far, but when you take a dreamer into action, there is nothing they cannot do.

6. Apply Solutional Thinking: The unachievable is only there because of limited thinking. When you begin to apply thoughts of , "What will it take?" "What do I need?" "What do I need to learn?" in place of words like never, can't, impossible, you are setting yourself up for success! Applying solutional thinking to your normal thinking process will not guarantee there will never be issues or mistakes, but will always help you to find more and better solutions to help you to move forward. Each problem carries more than one solution, and there is always a solution. If you don't believe me, think about this: 4+6=10, but so does 5x2, 11-1, 20 divided by 2 ( I could go on, and on, but hopefully you get the picture). This will open up a whole new world, with all sorts of perspectives for you. Tip: If you ever find yourself saying nasty words like can't, never, impossible, or the dreaded words like "I don't want..." Teach yourself (like a computer) to cancel it out. Mentally, or physically say the word, DELETE. You can even imagine yourself pushing a delete button in your mind's eye, and go back to your solutional thinking asking yourself, "What will it take?"
Seems simple, right? It may take some adjustment at first, but remember, repeating an action for 28 days makes it a habit, and I promise it will be worth it!

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